Your problems matter

A lot of times people feel that their problems are not that important because “there are people dying” or just generally being told that “people have it worse than you”, but this is a toxic way of thinking. It is true that someone will always have it worse than you, but that does not mean that your emotions are invalid. As humans, we rely heavily on relativity. If you grew up with a “perfect” life then a minor inconvenience might make you feel like your life is over. On the other hand, those who have repeatedly had to deal with terrible situations take a lot more to get upset about something, because they have become used to being disappointed. What happens to you in your life is not your fault. You have the right to be upset about circumstances that are less appealing than your normal life. You have the right to be able to discuss negative emotions towards these circumstances with others. There will always be at least one person you can talk about how you’re feeling, but there are some instances where you should be able to read the room and recognize someone may not be the right person. For instance, if someone has recently discussed a terrible tragedy that has happened to them such as losing a loved one, they are probably not the best people to talk to at the moment about drama in your life, for example. Having drama in your life could seriously be harming your mental health, so it’s not invalid, but just choose someone else to talk to. Make sure that whoever you’re opening up to is not dealing with serious problems in their own life at the moment. Trying to talk to these types of people will just make them feel worse, and they will likely struggle to help you in any way. To reiterate, don’t ever feel that you don’t deserve help because your problems are “first world” or “petty”. Even if your problems seem small, they can sometimes be magnified by having many small problems occurring at once, which can really give you a hard time.